Posts filed under Friendship

Wedding Hairstyling

What I love about wedding hairstyling, is that you get to meet wonderful people, and be a part of a day that is to be remembered for a long, long time. I consider it to be an honor to be a part of the day, but to help the bride find a wedding hairstyle that will bring out her regality, and compliment her dress and theme for her wedding.

I loved Lindsay from the moment I met her, Ease, Grace, and Kindness, are words I would use to describe her.  I think she looked just beautiful!

Lindsay 1

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She's Still Letting Her Hair Grow-Stop the War In Iraq

When Jeanne first walked into the salon to meet me for an update on how her hair growing process is going, she was dressed in her gray uniform from work, with her hair in a Twistie.  I told her I would be right with her.  As I finished up the short, sassy haircut on my last client of the day, I could see Jeanne's eyes peeking over the half-wall the cutting floor from the waiting area. Then, within minutes she was purring, barking, lusting after my client's short hair.  Her cries of desire left me with the feeling that the "grow out" as a stance against the war was waning. After I grabbed my bag, we head out into the sunlight, I could feel my skin, and all sensory neurons waking up, after a long day of being inside.  We embraced, I could feel the missing her right in the center of my chest.  As we ordered tea, and sat outside in front of Betty's Diner in Berkeley, CA, we got to the hair topic right away.  Basically, she is having a hard time with it.  She is a short hair kind of woman, long hair doesn't feel comfortable, or like an expression of herself.  Even more poignant of an action then, don't you think?

We talked about art, and we agreed we need to keep the art going.  But do we need to let the world know about our art?  She doesn't think so.  It's kind of like painting in back of the cave.  Paint because you have to, and for nobody else to see.  Somebody else will come paint over your work.  It's about the process, not the result.  Art for money?  That's a whole other conversation.  However, there are times we feel more private with our creativity, and sometimes we feel we need to let others in. We agreed we thought many more people would be functioning adults, had they had their voice come out through something they had created.

By the end of our conversation, Jeanne was thinking, maybe she just needed a slight trim to give it some shape as her hair continued to grow.  I agreed.  I said that is not a haircut, and you wouldn't be defeating the process.  Was it a plea for her hair, or about our connection.  She might be moving, and that would sadden me.  Maybe it saddened her as well.

We never did talk about the war.  It's almost impossible to let my heart fathom what has gone on in Iraq, and what continues to go on.  Not to mention what may be happening soon in Iran.  My own nephew joined the Coast Guard a month ago.  In his eyes, it was the only hope for a desperate young man, needing to feel worthy.

Posted on July 8, 2008 and filed under Creativity, Friendship, hairstylist, Love, Politics.

Past Lives

Once in awhile you meet someone who reminds you that there is such a thing as past lives lived, and maybe you come back together to continue the dialogue.  I had met Laura in the salon I worked at in downtown Oakland for 14 years.  She was a long time client of Joni's.  Laura is an artist, and we all had met working for the Personal Style Counselors, or PSC, in Oakland back in the 80's.  Laura would select color palettes for our clients.  After a client received their "harmonies", they would walk down the stairs to our salon, Kay's Collective, to have their hair done by the likes of Joni, myself and fourteen other stylists.  All this to say that Laura and I knew of each other, and then, eight years ago, she sat in my chair.  This is when we began to explore our connection. 

Laura is an artist who truly sees color, and has a deep respect for the canvas, the paint, and her relationship to the craft.  Her paintings capture a light essence, and yet her technique shows the depth of her understanding of the medium.  Her paintings delight me with her use of color, they are magical and inspirational, and yet I feel if I let myself gaze longer I can enter into the painting, and go many places.  After the birth of my daughter, I decided to take a painting class with her, and loved every minute of it.  I met Delfina Piretti there, and other delightful women.  And so, in our exploration, we not only share PSC in the past,  but now the desire to create beauty.

She not only is a wonderful artist, but a beauty, on the inside and out.  She works in the are of Transofrmative Arts.  She coaches, she speaks, as well as creates her own art.  Her list of accomplishments go on to astound me.  She has a great ability to drop down into pithy conversation, and on the other hand, we can laugh, and do.  As time goes on, we realize more and more, and appreciate the fact that, indeed, we have known each other a long time.  I have tremendous respect for Laura for many reasons, one of which is how she is determined to live a life that contributes to those around her. 

                                                    

Check out the interview with her, she shares her ideas on Color.

We did her makeup and hair last week and took these photos.           

                                                                                                                                                                                                   

To find out more about how talented, and how much this woman offers up to the world, check out her new website www.whitebirdrising.com

Thank you Laura, I look forward to discovering, and remembering our dear connection and how this thread will weave our lives together.

We Walk a Similar Path

However different we make think we are, it is minuscule compared to what we have in common.  Marcia Branca and I have known each other since 1988.  For twenty years our relationship has winded down a path that hugs the earth, and comes upon vistas that one can see as far out as eye can see.  When she first became a client, we realized we had a couple of mutual friends.  Her personal interests seemed to be similar to mine, and to the friends we had in common.  And although our relationship has not brought us together socially, it's as reliable.  It's as if each time, we fumble for a few minutes to see where we left off, but then quickly get back into a rhythm of sharing that makes us laugh, cry and remember why we carry on for this many years.

Some of the ways we knew each other were from unrelated arenas, giving us the feeling that really this is too much.  We have seen each other grow, and shrink, and grow again.  We both have one daughter, we both write, we both have a similar spiritual practice, we both paint, we both love travel, we both want something better for our daughters.  We have both dreamt, and have had our dreams shattered.  We are survivors, and after a kind of life that we catch glimpses of, and mirror for each other.

The other day, she did her makeup and I colored her hair and took a photo.  Because the time before, I colored and cut her hair, we applied makeup, and she looked fabulous.  The camera had no card.  So, this is what we captured this time.  And this is what she had to say about our presidential campaign:  Click here to download.

There is a certain kind of beauty in knowing that certain people you are sure you've known before, and will always feel a connection to, no matter how much time goes by, and how little you do see each other.  Thank you Marcia for the years of friendship, loyalty, trust and laughter.  You are a beauty.

Posted on June 10, 2008 and filed under Beauty, Friendship, hairstylist, Love, Loyalty, Politics, writing.

Hair Salon Personnel Change

Savanna, my anchor and colleague, is leaving the salon.  Her last day will be June 17, and it will be a sad day for me, although I am terribly excited for her.  Her, and her husband Jeff, are heading to the UK, where he is from, and where she has spent time. Her father is English as well.  Savanna is a talented hairdresser, who is down to earth, unpretentious, and somebody you want to know forever.  Her hair designs are creative, detailed, and daring.  Her bobs are perfect, her one lengths impeccable, and her short haircuts are original and well suited for the hair texture and the facial features of her clients.  And, she is a beautiful, genuine, gentle, and funny, and kind soul.

Then there is the way she dresses.  Vintage most of the time with a Savanna twist.  She will not wear makeup, if she doesn't feel like it.  She is regal, yet funky.  She is grounded and steady.  She changes her hair more than any hairdresser I've known.

Her presence in the salon will be missed by a lot of people.  Her level of care for her clients from the moment they show up, until the time they walk out of the salon, is superior.  She takes care of their hair, describing it to them at length to them, informing them of things they have never known.  I have never heard the cuticle of the hair be so interesting before.

Savanna's future will be fascinating.  She plans to go to design school, with an industrial focus.  She was already a painter before she studied hairdressing at the Paul Mitchell school in San Francisco.  Savanna and Jeff dined at our place the other nite, and as usual, there was lots of laughter, good food, and stories.  In true Savanna style, she walked in with a wet painting to which she had just applied the finishing touches.  It was an oil portrait of me, with my latest haircut and color.  I think she captured a lightness of being, that I will treasure for all time.

Thank you Savanna for your artistry, professionalism, care for people, your beauty-inside and out, and your dear friendship.  You are an inspiration to me, and words cannot define the deep level of respect I have for you.  And even though I shall miss you, I am proud of you for taking this leap.  I will see you in the UK.

Posted on June 2, 2008 and filed under Beauty, Creativity, Friendship, hairstylist, Inner Beauty, inspiration, Life, Love, Salon Life.

Sunset Hues in Her Hair

Cordelia was in today. Her hair was faded, but the black and the lightener pieces held up. I used 4.3 1/4 tube, and 6.46 on the base because I am was out of 5.46. I touched up the ends with special effects blood red, with hot lava, hi octane orange with a bit of yellow, and yellow by itself.  Cordelia is on her way to Greece for three weeks with her mother.  They are going on a sail boat for a contra dancing cruise.  She wanted to sport great hair, and so I went to work.  As, I swathed the sunny colors on her hair, we talked about our work, good food, and art.  We both had returned from women’s weekends, both wanting girl, art and nature, and good food connection. I came back with the deeper knowing that writing is what feeds my soul. Even so, sitting down and working on my book is the last thing I will sit and do. I’m afraid. What it requires for me to slow down enough to go deep inside feels like stepping into quicksand.

Back to Cordelia.  She continues to inspire me, to hold a torch for art and it’s importance to humanity. To end an insane day, with having time with Cordelia, was a dream.  There was lots of sparkle in the finished do.  I can picture her on that sailboat now, Hi Octane Orange colored hair blowing in the soft, warm wind.  People oohing and ahhing, “Look at that gorgeous woman, she must be an artist.”  Sunset hair!

Thank you Cordelia.

Posted on May 9, 2008 and filed under Beauty, boundaries, Creativity, Friendship, Hairstyling.

Ouch! That Brush Hurts

That was Dee's response was to my favorite round brush.  I never used to use them, in fact, when I trained with Rusk for a period of time, we had to do all our drying with a Denman or a vent brush.  The curvature was created by the haircut, but since working with them, I have slowly gone back to round brushing.  Those around me have brushes the circumference of a foam roller stuck in the hair of their clients, to form big 70's kind of hair.  I don't quite understand, but I don't get a lot of what the beauty industry supports. Back to Dee, ever since, it's been a running joke about this brush.  I've already written about her idea to photograph this brush in different environments.

We've struck up a friendship/professional relationship outside the salon.  She has a light hearted spirit, great sense of humor, and she is a fabulous photgrapher.  Wedding portrait images fill her portfolio. But check her out yourself.  Let me know what you think.  I think she has an incredible eye for design, lighting, etc.  www.deeconway.com.  Here are a couple for now.   We are talking about a shoot together soon.  Keep your eyes peeled.

That was Dee's response was to my favorite round brush.  And, I ddin't use to use them... When I trained with Rusk for a period of time, we had to do all our drying with a denman or a vent brush.  The curvature was created by the haircut, but since working with them, I have slowly gone back to round brushing.  Those around me have brushes the circumvernce of a foam roller stuck in the hair, to form big 70's kind of hair.  I don't quite understand, but I don't get alot of what the beauty industry supports.  But anyway, back to Dee, ever since. it's been a running joke about this brush.

We've even struck up a friendship/professional relationship outside the salon.  She's got a light hearted spirit, great sense of humor, and she is a fabulous photgrapher.  She exudes self-confidence-minus the ego.  Wedding portrait images fill her portfolio.  But check these images out yourself.  Let me know what you think.  I think she has an incredible eye for design, lighting, and a relationship to humans that is unique.  www.deeconway.com.  Here are a couple of photos for now. 

 

Thank you Dee!  I look forward to our shoot.

Posted on May 5, 2008 and filed under Beauty, Creativity, Friendship, Hairstyling, inspiration.

Generosity Abounds

Beth has been a client since 1986.  Her loyalty to me as a person, a friend, a hairstylist, is unbelievable.  Twenty two years of unwavering support in all that I do.  Her heart is generous, always thinking about what I would like, not to mention she allows me to play with her hair.  I saw her the other day, and we discussed everything, while we applied a level 4, Majorel, on a zigzag section, from below temple, all the way around her head.  Then with many slices we alternated 6.01 20 volume, with the level 4, all on a level 5, with 90% grey.

Beth is a wonderful jewelry designer, artist, and has an interest in the world around her.  Listen to her talk about her ideas on creativity. 

Here is her bio:  Through my 30+ years working in the fields of Adoption, and other areas of Child Welfare including Foster Care with Refugee Youth,  I have found continual inspiration in the incredible struggles of people with broken connections and the magic of their healing.

Bellemirth Creations grew out of my interest in the mysteries of the creative forces within.  It has become my source of healing and revitalization of spirit and soul.

She uses Precious Metal Clay, which is a product comprised of silver particles mixed with an organic binder that is in a clay form. It is fired in a kiln, resulting in a piece that is actually .999% pure fine silver.  At high temperatures, the binder burns away and the metal particles fuse to form solid silver that can be sanded, soldered, and polished.

Thank you Beth.  It is my pleasure to know you, and an honor to be with you, always.

 

 

 

Posted on April 30, 2008 and filed under Beauty, Creativity, Friendship, Hairstyling, inspiration, Loyalty, Salon Life, self-expression.

Diva of All Time

Cordelia BeforeCordelia AfterCordelia is an artist, and she is a client.  She lives and breathes creativity, i.e., garden stones with "Garden Diva" spelled out with pieces of colored glass.  Not the commercial stuff you see in garden stones, but the real deal--artful and unique.  Gizzey dolls made of stamped, stuffed cotton, modern clothes, and lace-up fabric shoes, pearls for breasts, different size buttons for eyes, and best of all, fabric remnants from our friend Giselle Shepatin shredded to create long locks of hair.  Wooden treasure boxes, painted, studded and stamped, pieces of glass in-layed on the top to create mosaic, "tell your truth" scrolled inside on the lid, little pieces of wood, line the inside of the lid, the bottom lined with mink.  Cut off finger gloves, then sewn around the fingers with a contrasting color, Turkish buttons sewn around the cuff.  These were all gifts to me.

She is feeling it right now, the creative juices are running wild.  Her six year business of staging houses is New Moon Designs. sfbay.craigslist.org/eby/rts/611777310.html.  Staged houses to Gizzy Dolls.  She doesn't think about being creative, she just has to create.  She wants us to save the Gloria Heads she saw piled up in the break-room at the salon the other day, she sees an art project waiting to happen.

I used her for a model the other day.  She brought in tortas de papas, guacamole and chips, and agua de frescas, and we applied makeup (I'm practicing what I learned in the class the other day).  Then I crimped her hair, I seem to be in a crimping mode these days.  While I smoothed plum eyeshadow over her lids, we talked about travels, our parents, experiences, friends, she told me she was a musician as well.

She is a marvel for sure.  Generous, gorgeous, and talented beyond words.  Loyal as all get out.  And a friend I will have for all time.

Posted on March 20, 2008 and filed under Creativity, Friendship, inspiration, Salon Life.

Balancing Life

I've got a lot of questions today. The balance of writing, working behind the chair, daughter time and partner  time, let alone time for myself is one that is fit for the finest circus.  I mean and I love everything I'm doing.  Is the doing about the doing though?   What would it be like to not do for a change, or are doers always fantasizing about the possibility of not doing?  Is the doing a cover up, for fear nothing will happen?    Some would say, "Get yourself to a therapist, quick."  But I feel done with that for now.

I heard, while traveling in India for six months, years ago, "whatever you are here to do, will be done through you, whether you are consciously working on it or not." 

So does it happen unconsciously?  Is it magic?  Does it happen while I sleep?  A simple guided tour map of our life handed to us as we slipped into the world, would be helpful.  We wouldn't have to know all the details, that would be dull and boring.  But if we knew that we would be doing exactly what we are to do this life, we could relax.  Take a vacation, read a book with our feet up on the sofa, take more walks and breathe in more fresh air, snuggle with our lover, play with our kids.

So, do you think hearing that from the teacher has helped any?  I mean, I'm supposed to know it, right?  But I do what I do, what I think I'm supposed to do, creating my own reality, full of it's limitations, every minute.  Am I running from something, or to something?  If I stop long enough, I can see I am still with me.

How can I stop, when there is so much to do.  So many things in life I have yet to experience.  I want to do hair the rest of my life and do it well, masterfully.  Maybe I don't need to stand behind the chair 4/7.  I want to travel to Baja, with my family and see the whales birth, and visit the Rodin museum in Paris, visit Africa and look into the eyes of a gorilla, and smell the earth, visit my mentor in Japan and see the cherry trees in bloom.  I want to experience having a real conversation with my mother, without her talking over me, I want to meet with teams of highly creative people, talk to them, create together.  I want to finish my book, I want to...the list is long.  How can one stop?

I will continue to do because I have to.  A life not verging on insanity will have to come some other time. 

Posted on February 8, 2008 and filed under Dreams, Family, Friendship, inspiration, Life, Love, writing.

NO WAR- She's Letting Her Hair Grow

There are three clients who are friends, all of them are artists.  I respect each and every one of them for manifesting themselves as artists, who never stop creating. One of them teaches classes on Tarot collages, as a way of exploring the different cards of the tarot deck.  She has an amazing gift with the cards, some of the knowledge handed down to her by her mother, some she has learned in her own continual study.  She continues to study it, teach it and offer the knowledge to her friends and acquaintances.  I took my daughter to her to have her cards read when she turned three years old, the candle was lit, the table set, and my daughter picked the cards, and they were explained in a simple way.

She had an art opening Friday night called "Tarage" A Collabrative Tarot & Collage Journey, and her work, as well as the participants,   displayed well in this tiny room of the Oakopolis Creativity Center.   The collages were grouped by Major Arcana, and Minor Arcana, etc., all 78 cards represented.  Quite stunning !  She happened to be sick that night, so we thought she wouldn't show, her friends hung the show.

One of the three, besides the one who teaches, filled me in on the process of the workshop, and then says to me, "You won't be seeing be for awhile, I am letting my hair grow,everywhere, in response to the war in Iraq.  I will not cut it until the war is over.  I actually heard a mother and daughter interviewed on KPFA, who are doing the same.  I felt inspired.  It's something I can do."

We all have to find our own response, that something that we can do to say NO WAR.  Isn't art a response to war?  Creating pieces of beauty, so our minds can focus on what is right in the world.

The Taroist did show and sat, she didn't appear well at all.  But we gave her great encouragement, for she is a master.

Posted on January 7, 2008 and filed under Friendship, inspiration.

NO WAR- She's Letting Her Hair Grow

There are three clients who are friends, all of them are artists.  I respect each and every one of them for manifesting themselves as artists, who never stop creating. One of them teaches classes on Tarot collages, as a way of exploring the different cards of the tarot deck.  She has an amazing gift with the cards, some of the knowledge handed down to her by her mother, some she has learned in her own continual study.  She continues to study it, teach it and offer the knowledge to her friends and acquaintances.  I took my daughter to her to have her cards read when she turned three years old, the candle was lit, the table set, and my daughter picked the cards, and they were explained in a simple way.

She had an art opening Friday night called "Tarage" A Collabrative Tarot & Collage Journey, and her work, as well as the participants,   displayed well in this tiny room of the Oakopolis Creativity Center.   The collages were grouped by Major Arcana, and Minor Arcana, etc., all 78 cards represented.  Quite stunning !  She happened to be sick that night, so we thought she wouldn't show, her friends hung the show.

One of the three, besides the one who teaches, filled me in on the process of the workshop, and then says to me, "You won't be seeing be for awhile, I am letting my hair grow,everywhere, in response to the war in Iraq.  I will not cut it until the war is over.  I actually heard a mother and daughter interviewed on KPFA, who are doing the same.  I felt inspired.  It's something I can do."

We all have to find our own response, that something that we can do to say NO WAR.  Isn't art a response to war?  Creating pieces of beauty, so our minds can focus on what is right in the world.

The Taroist did show and sat, she didn't appear well at all.  But we gave her great encouragement, for she is a master.

Posted on January 7, 2008 and filed under Friendship, inspiration.

NO WAR- She's Letting Her Hair Grow

There are three clients who are friends, all of them are artists.  I respect each and every one of them for manifesting themselves as artists, who never stop creating. One of them teaches classes on Tarot collages, as a way of exploring the different cards of the tarot deck.  She has an amazing gift with the cards, some of the knowledge handed down to her by her mother, some she has learned in her own continual study.  She continues to study it, teach it and offer the knowledge to her friends and acquaintances.  I took my daughter to her to have her cards read when she turned three years old, the candle was lit, the table set, and my daughter picked the cards, and they were explained in a simple way.

She had an art opening Friday night called "Tarage" A Collabrative Tarot & Collage Journey, and her work, as well as the participants,   displayed well in this tiny room of the Oakopolis Creativity Center.   The collages were grouped by Major Arcana, and Minor Arcana, etc., all 78 cards represented.  Quite stunning !  She happened to be sick that night, so we thought she wouldn't show, her friends hung the show.

One of the three, besides the one who teaches, filled me in on the process of the workshop, and then says to me, "You won't be seeing be for awhile, I am letting my hair grow,everywhere, in response to the war in Iraq.  I will not cut it until the war is over.  I actually heard a mother and daughter interviewed on KPFA, who are doing the same.  I felt inspired.  It's something I can do."

We all have to find our own response, that something that we can do to say NO WAR.  Isn't art a response to war?  Creating pieces of beauty, so our minds can focus on what is right in the world.

The Taroist did show and sat, she didn't appear well at all.  But we gave her great encouragement, for she is a master.

Posted on January 7, 2008 and filed under Friendship, inspiration.

NO WAR- She's Letting Her Hair Grow

There are three clients who are friends, all of them are artists.  I respect each and every one of them for manifesting themselves as artists, who never stop creating. One of them teaches classes on Tarot collages, as a way of exploring the different cards of the tarot deck.  She has an amazing gift with the cards, some of the knowledge handed down to her by her mother, some she has learned in her own continual study.  She continues to study it, teach it and offer the knowledge to her friends and acquaintances.  I took my daughter to her to have her cards read when she turned three years old, the candle was lit, the table set, and my daughter picked the cards, and they were explained in a simple way.

She had an art opening Friday night called "Tarage" A Collabrative Tarot & Collage Journey, and her work, as well as the participants,   displayed well in this tiny room of the Oakopolis Creativity Center.   The collages were grouped by Major Arcana, and Minor Arcana, etc., all 78 cards represented.  Quite stunning !  She happened to be sick that night, so we thought she wouldn't show, her friends hung the show.

One of the three, besides the one who teaches, filled me in on the process of the workshop, and then says to me, "You won't be seeing be for awhile, I am letting my hair grow,everywhere, in response to the war in Iraq.  I will not cut it until the war is over.  I actually heard a mother and daughter interviewed on KPFA, who are doing the same.  I felt inspired.  It's something I can do."

We all have to find our own response, that something that we can do to say NO WAR.  Isn't art a response to war?  Creating pieces of beauty, so our minds can focus on what is right in the world.

The Taroist did show and sat, she didn't appear well at all.  But we gave her great encouragement, for she is a master.

Posted on January 7, 2008 and filed under Friendship, inspiration.

NO WAR- She's Letting Her Hair Grow

There are three clients who are friends, all of them are artists.  I respect each and every one of them for manifesting themselves as artists, who never stop creating. One of them teaches classes on Tarot collages, as a way of exploring the different cards of the tarot deck.  She has an amazing gift with the cards, some of the knowledge handed down to her by her mother, some she has learned in her own continual study.  She continues to study it, teach it and offer the knowledge to her friends and acquaintances.  I took my daughter to her to have her cards read when she turned three years old, the candle was lit, the table set, and my daughter picked the cards, and they were explained in a simple way.

She had an art opening Friday night called "Tarage" A Collabrative Tarot & Collage Journey, and her work, as well as the participants,   displayed well in this tiny room of the Oakopolis Creativity Center.   The collages were grouped by Major Arcana, and Minor Arcana, etc., all 78 cards represented.  Quite stunning !  She happened to be sick that night, so we thought she wouldn't show, her friends hung the show.

One of the three, besides the one who teaches, filled me in on the process of the workshop, and then says to me, "You won't be seeing be for awhile, I am letting my hair grow,everywhere, in response to the war in Iraq.  I will not cut it until the war is over.  I actually heard a mother and daughter interviewed on KPFA, who are doing the same.  I felt inspired.  It's something I can do."

We all have to find our own response, that something that we can do to say NO WAR.  Isn't art a response to war?  Creating pieces of beauty, so our minds can focus on what is right in the world.

The Taroist did show and sat, she didn't appear well at all.  But we gave her great encouragement, for she is a master.

Posted on January 7, 2008 and filed under Friendship, inspiration.