Watching my friend give and give and give as a hairstylist, then burn out, was incredibly painful. Did he need to do it that way? Seeing his muddied boundaries was confusing, because he was somebody I respected in other ways, he would do just about anything for me. In fact, he helped me build my hairstyling career. Maybe it's the only way he knew how. Maybe it is what his clients expected of him. As a budding hairstylist, I could see the position required building relationships, sustaining them, not to mention having great technical skills, but did it mean I had to give up myself as an offering?